September 2nd New Moon Intention and Affirmation: Embracing Self Leadership
The new moon is upon us, so you guessed it, I have a new tarot curated intention and affirmation for us to work with. This moon cycle I used my Smith Waite tarot deck, and we pulled the Queen of Cups, The Tower, and the King of Wands. Be sure to have a look at the cards to see what they awaken in you. Let’s dive in!
Intention: Have you ever felt empowered and confident only to become riddled with a sense of inner conflict?
Sometimes we feel a pressure to perform, achieve, and accomplish. We know we have the skill and ability to do the things we want to do, but inner conflict undermines our sense of surety.
A sense of mounting pressure rises, and we know if we don’t sit with the parts of ourselves that are in conflict we’ll have a meltdown.
Affirmation: I can hold space for opposing needs and desires.
Key indicators of internal conflict I experience are fatigue, exhaustion, digestive issues, headaches, tension or aches and pains in various parts of my body, repeating thoughts, rumination, etc.
How about you? How do you know when an inner conflict is brewing? I ask because recognizing the internal conflict is the first step towards resolving it.
The combination of the Queen of Cups and the King of Wands (which represent opposing elements of water and fire) is an invitation to strive for a balance between your drive and your emotional well-being. The Tower suggests that this conflict is a catalyst for personal growth and transformation.
Let’s Explore Each Card
Queen of Cups: The Queen of Cups is a nurturing and compassionate figure. They represent emotional intelligence, intuition, and a deep connection to your feelings.
This archetype suggests a strong ability to empathize with others and understand their emotions. It signifies nurturing and compassion and suggests that even during conflict, you're capable of empathy and understanding.
The Tower: The Tower is a dramatic card that signifies unexpected upheaval. It can represent a loss, a breakdown, or a major change. However, the Tower is also a card of transformation and growth.
Upheaval can lead to a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you. In the context of this reading, The Tower represents the mounting pressure we feel when parts of ourselves are in conflict.
King of Wands: The King of Wands is a powerful and charismatic figure. They represent leadership, action, and creativity. It’s an archetype that knows how to balance intuition and logic. This card suggests that you have the potential to take charge, inspire others, and bring your ideas to life.
The King of Wands is a strong and confident leader, and so are you. Remember, leadership can be something we offer to others, but it’s also something we can offer to ourselves. In the wellness industry this is often referred to as self-leadership.
Qualities of self-leadership:
Self-awareness: Understanding your strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs.
Intention setting: Clearly defining your current values, needs, and desires.
Consistency: Developing self-discipline, staying focused and motivated.
Problem-solving: Developing strategies to overcome obstacles and challenges.
Love of learning: Finding pleasure in seeking out new knowledge and skills that help you understand yourself and the world around you.
Stepping into Self Leadership: A Guide to for Conflicting Parts
1. Identify the Parts:
Notice the conflict: Become aware of the different voices or perspectives within you.
Name the parts: Give these parts specific names (e.g., "The Worrier," "The Dreamer") to differentiate them.
2. Connect with Each Part:
Imagine a conversation: Pretend you're having a conversation with each part.
Listen to their needs: Understand their motivations, fears, and desires.
I like to get out a blank piece of paper and fold it into thirds.
Use the section to the right to document the perspective of one of your parts.
Use the section on the left to document the other.
Use the middle to document any ideas, values, needs, or desires that each part shares.
It’s fun to use fine tipped markers and assign a color to each part. What color would your parts choose?
Be sure to ask each part about their challenges, joys, needs, and desires.
3. Find Common Ground:
Explore shared goals: Identify any underlying desires or goals that both parts may have.
If you’re using the blank paper method I describe about, use the middle section of your paper, and perhaps a new color, to document any ideas, values, needs, desires your parts share.
Seek compromise. Find ways for the parts to work together towards a shared objective.
Trust your inner wisdom. Recognize that both parts contribute valuable perspectives.
4. Validate and Soothe:
Validate the experiences and emotions that may be driving these parts.
Let your parts know that they are safe and loved.
If you’re using markers and a blank piece of paper (as described above) you may choose to use a soothing color to write out words of validation and support for each part on your paper, in their respective sections.
Remember, this process may take time and practice. It's important to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate these internal dynamics.
On that note, how’s it going? Have you experienced inner conflict?
If so, what did you do?
Lately I’ve been working on the parts of me that want to set healthy boundaries and move away from people pleasing tendencies.
I’m also working with the parts of me that worry about what people will think and say as I begin to hold true to my boundaries.